I will admit that after years of linked-in, friendster, myspace, second life…well…I’ve been wary of Facebook.
Oh, I’ve been following it and playing with other people’s pages and so on. But I’ve deeply resisted joining myself. After a while the invitations were beginning to pile up. When 4 out of the other 5 members of my immediate household invited me (we won’t allow the 5th to have a page because she’s too young)…well…it became a little uncomfortable around the dinner table.
So I put my face up there.
Soon more people began to invite me to be their friends. I resisted accepting. My sister got angry at me, my brother-in-law got angry at me, my cousin got angry at me.
You can get the picture.
Under pressure I accepted those. And then more came in. Friends from high school, college, running. Friends of cousins. Cousins of friends. It became overwhelming to keep up with everyone’s posts.
Then business associates began to send me invitations.
Do I accept? Or do I ignore? If I accept, then the wall between personal and business dissolves. For the rest of my family and other friends, that can create problems. And if I ignore, do I risk insulting people who I like tremendously and do business with?
After wrestling with this for over a month, I decided that it is okay to have some walls in life. In fact, it is necessary. The privacy of others can easily be compromised by my desire to be an open book.
I have now joined the Facebook Witness Protection Program.
I will accept all invitations to Linked-in. I will respond to all emails (email@example.com). I will return your phone calls. It’s just Facebook that is my walled garden.
While wrestling with these weighty questions, I came up with an idea for a new social networking brand. Actually, it’s an anti-social networking brand. You cannot invite anyone to be a friend. And they wouldn’t accept even if you could invite them. I’m naming it UnFriendster.